Arguments

Interesting dynamics in the family with R and me and Dearra. Couple of times he has snapped at me about something and I've spoken up and defended myself. Dearra's gotten right in my face about it, almost as if it's my fault or as if it's my job to calm him down.

Ex. 1: R - "You didn't put the honey on the table for me."
D - "You didn't bring out the mayo for me the other night when you made
burgers, what's your point?"
Dearra - "Stop it, it's just a jar of honey, what's the big deal?" Goes
and gets honey.

Ex. 2: D - "Oh, we forgot Cary's haircut." Goes upstairs to get SuperCuts card to
call.
R - Comes upstairs and says something about taking Cary.
D - "I was just going to call and see what the wait was."
R - "DAWN I'm taking him to my place." Said in loud, you should have known,
kind of voice.
D - "Hey, I didn't know you had plans to take him."
Dearra - "Stop arguing about such stupid things." And she was very in MY
face when she said that.

Well the nice counselor (one time when I was in there alone) did say that I was the voice of calm in the family. So I'm sitting here wondering if Dearra has this idea that it's my job to calm Dad down.

I spose I could ask her, but I'd have to find a way to do it without criticizing her Dad. Hmm...